Rope bondage in n lessons

First of all, let me just say that I’m not a shit-hot-rope-top, as the fabulous Midori says. I’m not Japanese and I definitely don’t speak any Japanese (my funny name, Loki, comes from Norse mythology by the way). Whilst I have a preference for Japanese-style rope bondage, I’m sure there are many practitioners of this ancient art that will cringe at my feeble attempts.

The most important things in rope bondage for me are:

• That is must be safe – Japanese shibari / kinbaku has its origins in military restraint where things like tying around the neck are considered acceptable. Obviously not something you want to be doing to your beau.
• That it’s sensual & sexy – there is very little point if neither the top or bottom are enjoying it. It can be pretty dull to simply lie someone down and spend half an hour tying a beautiful and intricate rope body harness if there’s no build up. The very act of doing the tying should be a kind of sensual foreplay in itself; drape the rope over the submissive’s body, let her smell it, blindfold him with it, tease them, tug them around with the rope so they can feel dominated… you get the idea.
  The flip-side of this is that if you want to really get into the art of tying, especially tying fast, then you need to practice and learn from books, magazines and your peers. Sometimes you can get away with tying on yourself but eventually you’re going to need something to play with :)
• That I get tied up! – the point of rope bondage is ultimately not to be able to move very much and not to escape (although it is fun trying). You will see many amazing pictures of ultra-lithe models being shaped into the most beautiful positions – how long do you think they are held like that though? Just long enough for the photographer to do his work :) Your submissive needs to be relatively comfortable for a reasonable amount of time, yet kept right where you want them.

I have no idea how many installments there will be but if there’s anything you’d specifically like me to address, give me a shout.

Next time: rope basics & safety.